Did you know that, unless you are seeking an in demand job, you will have a difficult time, when you attempt to go back to work? The job hunting challenge increases with each year that you were a stay at home mom. The older you are, the more likely you will be to have to settle for less pay. If you were not lucky enough to have selected a profession that you could leave and then return as desired, finding work will not be easy. For the most part, you should not hope for, or expect a similar income, as the one you had previously. You may have to start from the ground floor or even venture into a totally different career. Remember, that you can protect yourself and prepare yourself WHILE you are still a stay at home mom. Please, take heed.

Keep all of your certifications and licenses current. Obtain letters of recommendation from people who were complimentary of you, while you were in the work force. Keep a provisional resume and update it constantly. Include any positions that you have held as a volunteer and explain your duties and responsibilities. You may be surprised at how many of these details might impress a potential employer and help your resume to stand out! As we know, time gaps are not a good thing to have on a resume. You will also need to explain these gaps during an interview. You want to present yourself enthusiastically, creatively and positively. Be forthright and let all know that you are proud of the time that you spent as a stay at home mom and all that you accomplished. Do not be apologetic or embarrassed. Instead, be excited about rejoining the work force and mention all of the things you have to offer.

It’s important for an employer to see that you are adaptable, able to multitask, willing to work hard and be a team player. How better to inform him, than letting him know things like, I served as the president of the PTA for 4 years and during that time, the PTA implemented several of my suggestions, which helped the PTA’s operation move from being in the red to being in the black, for the first time in 23 years. Then, you can present the letter from the school board, thanking you for the PTA’s successes during your presidency.

If the position that you are seeking is in sales, your being in charge of the Girl Scout cookie sales in your county, may help you obtain the job. You might state something like, While I was in charge of the county’s cookie sales, we implemented my idea of, teaching the girls positive sales techniques and offered large bonuses to the highest sellers. There were over two thousand more boxes sold during my tenure than in any previous years. Present the letter to you from the head of the Girls Scouts of America, thanking you for your inspiration and hard work.

In addition, if you worked from home in anyway, this may also be mentioned on your resume. If you were a member of a baby sitting co-op, you can accurately and honestly mention the role you played and your duties. Gather letters of recommendation that express your successes. Do not forget to add the specifics of your days as a stay at home mom and corporate wife, if that pertains. Detail the things that you did to help your husband’s advancement. If you entertained or were involved in activities that promoted your husband’s career or helped his company, many might be worth pointing out.

By including facts such as these, you will have explained the time gap in an impressive way. If the resume is written cleverly, there might not be any time gaps. The potential employer hopefully, will see a courageous, hard working, stay at home mom who would be an asset to a company, even though the reality is that, you have not been in the work force recently. Prepare yourself and believe in yourself as you venture through this new chapter of your life.

Career Coach comment

You have suffered a full battery of traumatic multi-stressors and have handled them admirably. Hopefully you have and continue to pursue psychological and emotional support from professionals and loved ones for your divorce, your illness and your financial challenges. As for your job search, you have a lot to offer a potential employer including viable work experience, rich volunteer experience, education and most important an enthusiasm for getting back to work full-time. The process of finding a full-time job is not unlike the process any stay-at-home Mom or career changer would take: 1. Identify your specific skills (e.g. teaching, training, organizing, selling, managing projects, etc.) that you’ve developed. At your age you have at least 20-30. 2. Make a list of fantasy jobs, realistic jobs, and industries that appeal to you. Look at the Dictionary of Occupational Titles (published by the Dept. of Labor) to identify some of these things. 3. Narrow it down to 3-5 possible jobs and reach out to your network to find people who work in those jobs. Contact them and ask to meet for an informational meeting to learn more about what they do and potential obstacles and opportunities. 4. Decide on two potential jobs and identify all of the companies who could hire you. 5. Revamp your resume to pull out the skills and experiences you have. For example, if you want to do fundraising or development for a non profit, you’d stress your sales and volunteer experience. 6. Systematically approach every possible company or organization through networking, visiting their websites to look at job postings, job boards, internet social networking, and headhunters. 7. Keep plugging and you will find a job. And by the way, if you believe that everyone knows about your illness, then the world you’re operating is way too small and needs to be broadened considerably.